Ekstrovert? Introvert? (2)

13 April 2012

Hanata ngeliat foto-foto di dompet Hana terus dia minta foto yang isinya kami berdua.  
Hana pun cerita ke Hanata kalau Hana mulai memustuskan ngeprint foto yang ada di hp setelah ikut kuliah umum Samuel Gosling tentang kepribadian. 

“Samuel Gosling bilang salah satu cara mengetahui apakah seseorang termasuk introvert atau extrovert bisa dilihat dari gambar/foto yang dipasang di meja kerja atau d kamarnya. Orang-orang ekstrovert memasang foto berisi gambar orang karena mereka senang bertemu orang dan merasa bersemangat ketika mendapat stimulus dari luar, dalam hal ini melihat orang, sementara introvert cenderung memasang gambar pemandangan alam atau benda mati lainnya di kamar maupun meja kerjanya. Orang2 introvert sudah merasakan stimulus yang besar dari dalam diri mereka sehingga mereka tidak memerlukan stimulus dari luar."

Saat mengikuti kuliah umum tersebut, Hana tersadar kalau tidak ada satu pun foto yang terpasang di kamar Hana sehingga Hana memutuskan untuk ngprint foto yang isinya hana dan temen2 hana dan pasang foto di kamar kosan Hana.” Cerita Hana terhenti d situ. Hanata balik bertanya “Han, loe kenapa milih ngeprint foto? Apakah secara unconscious (alam bawah sadar/tidak sadar) loe sebenarnya ingin jadi extrovert?”

Pertanyaan Hanata membuat Hana melihat masalah ini dari sudut pandang baru. Hana ingat setelah mengikuti kuliah umum Hana tiba2 ingin ngeprint foto, tapi apa alasan di balik itu? Apakah Hana ingin menjadi extrovert? Hana pun berusaha mengingat kembali motivasi Hana ngeprint foto.  

I keep thinking about sampai Hana membuat tugas analisis kepribadian dan merefleksikan hasil tersebut.  Hana tiba2 ingat kenapa hana ngeprint foto, Hana pengen jadi orang yang berani nyapa orang duluan dan selalu tersenyum ketika ketemu orang. Selama ini, bagi Hana tersenyum itu melelahkan kecuali mood Hana benar-benar bahagia, tapi masalahnya adalah hana sering pasang emosi datar dan cemberut. Hana selalu kagum sama orang2 yang bisa selalu tersenyum dan nyapa orang duluan. Mereka adalah qq, raisa, icha, nurul, chris, billy, kak dian dan kak leon. Hana selalu kagum mereka bisa dengan mudahnya tersenyum dan senyuman mereka selalu membuat mood Hana lebih baik. Hana pengen jadi seperti mereka yang bisa membuat orang bahagia. intinya yang hana inginkan bukanlah menjadi ekstrovert tapi hana ingin meniru kemampuan ekstroert dalam hal tersenyum dan menyapa orang terlebih dahulu. 

Selain itu, dalam islam diajarkan kalau senyum adalah ibadah. Selama ini, setiap kali hana mencoba menyapa orang dengan maksakan diri Hana untuk tersenyum, feedback yang Hana dapet adalah “Na, senyum loe maksa banget, ngga wajar, aneh, jelek.” Hal tersebut membuat Hana makin takut untuk mencoba tersenyum. Sampai akhirnya Hana nemu foto ini:

Smile :)

Pas baca foto ini hana kaget. Well, senyum kepaksa ternyata termasuk jenis senyum. Semenjak itu, hana mulai berani mencoba tersenyum saat mencoba menyapa orang dan udah mulai tidak peduli komentar negatif. Semoga saja Hana bisa terus tersenyum ketika menyapa orang :D wish me luck

Btw,  di mata kuliah psikologi kepribadian, hana ikut  test big five personality short version of the IPIP-NEO   dan ternyata hasilnya hana termasuk introvert lho :D 

Extraversion

Extraversion is marked by pronounced engagement with the external world. Extraverts enjoy being with people, are full of energy, and often experience positive emotions. They tend to be enthusiastic, action-oriented, individuals who are likely to say "Yes!" or "Let's go!" to opportunities for excitement. In groups they like to talk, assert themselves, and draw attention to themselves.

Introverts lack the exuberance, energy, and activity levels of extraverts. They tend to be quiet, low-key, deliberate, and disengaged from the social world. Their lack of social involvement shouldnot be interpreted as shyness or depression; the introvert simply needs less stimulation than an extravert and prefers to be alone. The independence and reserve of the introvert is sometimes mistaken as unfriendliness or arrogance. In reality, an introvert who scores high on the agreeableness dimension will not seek others out but will be quite pleasant when approached.

Domain/Facet........... Score 0--------10--------20--------30--------40--------50--------60--------70--------80--------90--------99

EXTRAVERSION...............26 **************************

..Friendliness.............45 *********************************************

..Gregariousness...........6 ******

..Assertiveness............77 *****************************************************************************

..Activity Level...........53 *****************************************************

..Excitement-Seeking.......23 ***********************

..Cheerfulness.............10 **********

Your score on Extraversion is low, indicating you are introverted, reserved, and quiet. Youenjoy solitude and solitary activities. Your socializing tends to be restricted to a few close friends.

Extraversion Facets

• Friendliness. Friendly people genuinely like other people and openly demonstrate positive feelings toward others. They make friends quickly and it is easy for them to form close, intimate relationships. Low scorers on Friendliness are not necessarily cold and hostile, but they do not reach out to others and are perceived as distant and reserved.Your level of friendliness is average.
• Gregariousness. Gregarious people find the company of others pleasantly stimulating and rewarding. They enjoy the excitement of crowds. Low scorers tend to feel overwhelmed by, and therefore actively avoid, large crowds. They do not necessarily dislike being with people sometimes, but their need for privacy and time to themselves is much greater than for individuals who score high on this scale. Your level of gregariousness is low.
• Assertiveness. High scorers Assertiveness like to speak out, take charge, and direct the activities of others. They tend to be leaders in groups. Low scorers tend not to talk much and let others control the activities of groups. Your level of assertiveness is high.
• Activity Level. Active individuals lead fast-paced, busy lives. They move about quickly, energetically, and vigorously, and they are involved in many activities. People who score low on this scale follow a slower and more leisurely, relaxed pace. Your activity level is average.
• Excitement-Seeking. High scorers on this scale are easily bored without high levels of stimulation. They love bright lights and hustle and bustle. They are likely to take risks and seek thrills. Low scorers are overwhelmed by noise and commotion and are adverse to thrill-seeking. Your level of excitement-seeking is low.
• Cheerfulness. This scale measures positive mood and feelings, not negative emotions (which are a part of the Neuroticism domain). Persons who score high on this scale typically experience a range of positive feelings, including happiness, enthusiasm, optimism, and joy. Low scorers are not as prone to such energetic, high spirits. Your level of positive emotions is low.

note: Hana bukan ngga suka jadi ekstrovert.. hana tahu kok introvert dan ekstrovert punya kelebihan dan kekurangan masing2.. tapi hana selama ini selalu menganggap dir hana introvert dan bertindak sesuai persepsi tersebut.. rasanya aneh ketika a

da yg bilang hana ekstro.. 

kalau pake intovert ekstovertnya jung sih emang bisa dinamis.. tapi seseorang cenderung jadi introvert ketika dia makin tua.. nah kalau teori costa Mccrae bilang basic tendecies OCEAN (Big five ppersonality) seseorang tuh stabil seumur hidupnya..
eh tapi hana dukung teori belajarnya bandura yg bilang orang tuh dinamis dan berkembang seumur hidupnya..

oia, :D introverted prefer writing to talking. They are more comfortable with the written word, which helps them formulate the spoken word

kesimpulan: Hana introvert :D