Fast vs Far

“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love”

Alhamdulillah on the 7th December, I met members of Millenium Super Cool.
I miss them so much. It has been long time that we did not gather as full team.
We had lunch at Takarajima then we took photo studio session at Mari Pro.
We took photo in graduation mode (we wear our toga) since MSC’s members did not graduate together
I, Vania and Ikhsan graduated in 8 February 2014 while Nia, Hana Talita and Kathy graduated in 29 August 2014.

Vania, Hana Talita, Nia, Me, Kathy, Ikhsan
MSC S.Psi in Toga

If I look members of MSC, I can’t help wonder why we are together and can be close like right now. We have lots of differences and I never thought I can be close with people who have lots differences with me. Here a glimpse:
Me. Karawang.  Sundanese/Chinese. ISTJ. Blood type B. Islam. Social and Clinical Psy
Nia. Bandung. Batak. ENFP. Blood type B. Protestan. Education and Development Psy
Hana Talita. Jakarta. Chinese. ENFJ. Blood type  A. Protestant. Education and Clinical Psy
Vania. Serpong. Chinese. ENTJ. Blood type A. Protestant. Organizational & Industrial and Clinical Psy
Kathy. Bekasi. Javanese. ISFP. Blood type  O. Catholics. Social and Clinical Psy .
Ikhsan. Bontang. Javanese. ISFP. Blood type  O. Islam. Organizational & Industrial and Clinical Psy Hahahahaha

I am really grateful to have them. They taught me that a good friend is not a perfect one, but friend who focuses on good things (strenght ) and overlook the weakness. And it is about compability not perfection. I am sure there are who is better and worse than them, but they may be not compatible with me.
And if they do exist, I wonder will they patient enough with my weakness and my bad side ?
There are times that I think MSC are annoying and there are times when I am the one who are annoying. When those times come, I remember all the good things and how MSC patient deal with me so I felt touch and thought their annoying side is small matters that I should not think about.
The big role that MSC have in my life are they gave me lesson that I can trust (learn to trust) people. Honestly, I am the one who hard to trust people especially when it comes to group assignment. I prefer to work and finish the assignment alone.

MSC thought me that I can learn to trust people and group assignment is designed to be finished by group not alone.
I learn working in group is giving opportunity to be better person and better result. If the result is neither satisfying nor fitting my expectation, I should tell them how to do better or teach them how to improve their work, not taking over the assignment and fixing them by myself.  Working as a group is about reach the goal together even every member has their own way and teaches each other strength.

If you want to walk fast, walk alone. If you want to walk far, go together.

I think the quote is true. If I working group assignment by myself maybe I will finish faster but the result will not be as good (far) as if I work together with my friends.
Another good thing about MSC is that we realize that we have a lot of differences, so we tolerant toward each other. If there is misunderstanding or fight, we recall that we have different background, personality, and interest so misunderstanding and differences in opinion is something that we can’t avoid.  Whether we want it or not, our mindset realized that we have to learn to understand each other.

Sometimes when I started making friends with the one who has lots in common, somehow I expect she/he understand me more and I also hope there are more lot things in common that we have. Without realizing, I set my mind with the expectation wanting to be understood so it can lead to fighting or argument. In some cases, I became more disappointed and not tolerant with the differences.
If you are my loyal readers, you guys must have known that I believe that similarity stick people together (can read in here) but through MSC, I realized that similarity and dissimilarity have their own positive and negative side. Alhamdulillah :D

"Partner with people that are smarter than you, understand your strengths and weaknesses, and surround yourself with people that complement your strengths, but could support your weaknesses"

Jessica Alba

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