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I did my homework.
I asked Ikhsan about why he thought that I am not a romantic person.
He said that he knew that I am not spontaneous person and to be romantic person, I need spontaneity.
He said romantic is something beyond our expectation.
After hearing his thought, I googled "to be romantic" and found this article "How to Be Romantic".
The article said that it takes great care, forethought, and creativity to be truly romantic. I have to find an unexpected and exciting way to express my love to another person. Being romantic also keep the relationship fresh.
The article also mentions four methods to be romantic and break down the methods into several ways.
It is interesting reading :D
Ah.. Reading the article made me grateful that I have not married yet since I can picture myself fall into routine.
I mean I am the type who will find out what the rule, obligation and expectation in a relationship are, then stick to it.
I also dislike surprise or situations where I don't know what the rule, obligation and expectation are.
Reading the article made me realize that sometimes I need to go out my comfort zone (doing spontaneous, unexpected thing) to make my partner happy.
Well, I have read lots of articles about marriage and some marriages began to fall apart after the honeymoon phase.
One of the advice for making the marriage work is kept dating each other so the relationship can feel exciting/fresh.
I can imagine myself follow the advice to keep dating each other like going to dinner at a restaurant once a month, have quality time and etc, but I will do it for the sake of following the rule and it will probably become a routine.
I am probably missing the purpose of doing the advice in the first place.
I am glad I knew that I am not romantic and how to be romantic before marriage :)
I still have time to learn to be romantic.
Wish me luck guys :D